Wait! Is Love Capable of Ending?

“Have you ever wondered why the tongue that said to you, ‘I love you dear,’ shamelessly utters, ‘ I do not care’, some other day? Was St. Paul wrong when he wrote, ‘Love never ends?,’ Of course he was not. If love is capable of ending, it simply means it never existed.” Those are the words in the song, Jesus, teach me love.

The Bible says ‘love never ends’! In Matthew 19:6, Jesus, drawing from Genesis Chapter 2, insists that ‘what God has joined, no man can separate’. And in 1 Corinthians 13, Paul openly says it, ‘love will never end’! And yet, we have seen lovers separate, divorce, and do unspeakable things to each other! This necessitates the question, does love end? Explore with me now.

Indeed, in the Bible, from Genesis to Revelation, God speaks of love that never ends. While, in general, he is talking about his sacrificial love for us as in 1 Corinthians 13 (AGAPE LOVE), He brings the same concept in relationships as well. For example, in reference to God’s institution of marriage started in Genesis chapter 2, Jesus, in Matthew 19:6, states that what God has joined, no man can separate! While this statement carries a lot more than just romance, it is still within the broad measures of love. In other words, true love never ends!

Love in our relationships

Love is natural. And for Christians, love is more of sacrificial just like Christ’s. And, therefore, love doesn’t just end with the end of our gifts, I mean physical gifts! As we grow, through the society, the people around us, the religions we attend to and the books we read, we are taught the ways and means of expressing what we feel inside to the people we love. So we learn to buy gifts and roses, to smile and chat romantically, to write and send lovely letters, to walk the natural woods or visit a movie theatre as to enhance how we feel about each other. But do not be confused. This is not the beginning of love; it is the maintenance and expression of what we naturally had or have.

When we quarrel, when the gifts no longer come, when we no longer hold hands, smile or even kiss, it is not an indication of love death; it is a sign of failed expression of love. It is not the change in our expressions that can dictate the death of love; it is ONLY the death of our soul and spirit that can ultimately destroy love.

Understanding the above gives us courage to wait on our nagging lovers until they settle down, wait on the drunkard husband until he is sober, wait on the cheating man until he settles, wait on the separated couples until they re-unite. We have always done those things and we have seen them being done. The reason is because while different challenges affect the expression of love between couples or lovers, their naturally connected souls remain intact. It is actually possible for a man to divorce a woman, marry another one but his true real love remain only for the first wife.

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What is my point? Never give up on your love, on someone dear to you because of a day’s insult, a month of cut-off communication, a week of resentful acts, or a sad face after a crazy party because these are the faults in our expressions of love, but not signs n of affected roots of love. I have seen it and have lived it too; love never ends.

Therefore, hold on, pause a bit, wait a moment, that lady’s behavior last night, that man’s fake smile last evening or his drunkenness may just be a bleach in the expressions and gestures of love but you are still the one; wait a little, he or she is coming.

Finally, we all should know that while love is natural in us, its fruits or expressions are what we all enjoy and feed on. A long time of failed expressions or gestures of love will ultimately lead to divorce or separation. The good news in this is that, such long term failures of expressing our love usually imply that we did not love each other in the first place; thus divorce or separation becomes inevitable.

A wise man once said, ‘once in love, any man becomes a poet’. Let me borrow this and say ‘once in love, means of expressing that are automatic’. If up to now, there are no gestures and expressions of love in your relationship, it is time to ask; did we fall in love in the first place? And when to end it is all that is available, then it means you were never in love in the first place. So, is love capable of ending? No. If it ends, it means it never existed!

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