In love, everyone calls them ‘small things’, are they?

In one of her songs, Judith Babirye sings that ‘women just want small things and they will be happy’. For long, I have been thinking about why then men are unable to give out such small things and make life easy and joyful and I could not figure it until now. The answer has sounded in my mind now; women want big, great things and men can’t provide them. But then, why do we keep referring these things to ‘small’?
What the world calls small things are actually the big things in reality. If not that, why the hell would there be all these bad moments between lovers that had intentions for good and happiness?
In the article, there can be giving without loving though there cannot be loving without giving, we agreed that any man can be able to give a woman money, protection, house, and eh good expensive dresses and cars, but not any man can give care for long, stay besides an angry woman, calm down a woman he himself has made cry, kiss and hold a woman who he himself has been quarreling with, and all those other things from the heart which you have wrongly termed as ‘small things’.  In a summary, any man can be able to give out things to a woman but not every man can truly love a woman.
A man is able to put on the table 50000 shillings even after beating his wife; a man is able to buy an expensive dress or car for a woman who has been quarreling over the phone. Dare I say a man is able to help in all ways a woman he has no feelings for; it is possible and is common.
Alas! So how come you get these things that come from deep within our hearts, that require our total humbleness and submission, that require a greater sacrifice of our heart’s pride, and call them ‘small things’? I am not in line with you on this. I know so many women do not know that what they are asking for is bigger and greater and so think that men are not serious if even such ‘small things’ can’t be met.
Listen, there is no such a small thing whose strings are attached onto the heart. Please, learn how to value things that you request for.
What is the point today? Our lives, I mean, my life is sour and sad because i have often failed to give in abundance what is ‘small and readily available’ according to women, but now I see that I failed simply because it is not small; instead, it is the biggest that I can offer and it cannot be that easy to provide all the time.
No more stresses or being angry with myself, at least, not in the way I used to.  I now know that I have to sacrifice hard, kill myself hard and close my eyes enough if I am to provide these items, intangible great things of the heart. And only God can make any man satisfy his wife in these things. Therefore, to you men out there, do not worry. You are not so much bad as women think, you are not failing in small things as women think; you are failing while trying to deliver the greatest things there can be. Maybe this reminds us of the need for God’s gracious hand to help us in delivering such things, such true love to the women we love. I we think of these matters as small, we will not need God; this could be dangerous.
Lastly, women are not gonna be satisfied with these things they usually call small until they realize that actually what they are requesting for are great and big things there can be. “Just hold me. Just calm me down. Just stay near all the day. Just tell me nice things after making me angry. Just come home with a smile and warm kiss every day. Just hug me when I am mad at you. Just touch me when I am abusing you. Just say sorry when you annoy me. Just listen to me when I am complaining. Just let me cry on your laps even when you are the cause for my cry. Those ‘small things’ are the ones that I want,” women say. And I wonder; when did such great actions of true love be small things?

Conclusion

What the world classifies as the weak, small, of less value is actually the strong, great and of high value. In love, these things that we (especially women) usually call ‘small things’ are actually true great things that make love flourish. None of us can meet them minus hard sacrifice or, better still, minus God’s gracious hand. Men should work hard to give these intangible things to women but term them as the greatest they can offer and thus seek God’s help and be slow with themselves in case of some failing or shortages. Women should rename these things as the greatest and thus appreciate the few of them they get, help their husbands to make them come true and, just like their husbands, seek God’s guidance to fulfill such needs for the ones they love.
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